Author of

 "Good Kids, Difficult Behavior"

and "Discipline That Works: 5 Simple Steps"

 NOTES FROM THE EDITOR

Dear Educators and Friends,

 

 

Congratulations!

 

Good Kids, Difficult Behavior

 

has turned 10 Years old.

 

 

This book has helped tens of thousands of parents and educators all over the world!

 

 

"Good Kids, Difficult Behavior" presents simple, effective tools for understanding difficult behavior and changing it through a thoughtful prepared adult response. The book outlines what works: Keeping your cool, identifying strengths, clear structure, praise, and "walking them through the thinking process". And what doesn't work: Yelling, threatening, over punishing, constant criticism, and nagging.

 

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For any of our subscribers who have not had the opportunity to read this book, I urge you to take advantage of this opportunity to purchase this classic.

 

The Editor

 

 ASK JOYCE

As Joyce travels and works with educators all over the country, she is constantly being asked---

 

"What do you do when...?" questions.  She has the greatest respect for "what do you do when questions" because usually the questioner is genuinely seeking new information and the teacher is willing to be a student.  Each month, Joyce will answer one or more of the most common "what do you do questions".  You are welcome to send one of yours.  She'll do her best to answer it.  Keep in mind, her answers may be different from the customary response but they are tried and true strategies for getting students to do what you are asking them to do.  Give yourself permission to try something new! Email Joyce at joyce@thehumanconnection.net  with any questions or situations you would like input on.  Let us know if we can show the question in a future newsletter or if you prefer to keep it private. We are hoping Joyce can help address situations you encounter and by sharing these questions/answers others can benefit as well.


From Joyce...

Spring Greetings,

Most of you are back from spring break.  I hope you took the time to do the pleasurable things that re-energize you and you are ready to roll through the back stretch of the 2006/7 school year.  I want to take this opportunity to thank you all for your hard work and dedication and give you a few suggestions for motivating the students that have lost whatever enthusiasm for learning that they may have had. 

The most frustrating students, if my contacts and case load are any reflection, are the ones who do not want to do anything.  Notice, I did not say “the students who just don’t care.”  These non-participating students do care about many things; some even care about their educations.  They just don’t care about what you may be teaching.  They don’t see the relevance to their here and now lives.  Most  have little ability to consider the experiences they may have in the future if they do not complete the work they have to do now.  Helping them do just that is one way to do motivate them to perform.

Here are a few suggestions to help you push, pull, or prod your non-performing students into finishing the necessary assignments in order to pass this school years:

1)     Ask questions.  Ask each student or a group of students who are not performing what, if anything you could do to help them pass.  Tell them you know what they need to do, but maybe there is something you could do to help them that you have thought of so far.

Be careful to ask this question with sincere concern.  You may have to put aside your feelings of frustration or your judgment of the student’s character.  If you can’t do that, don’t ask because it won’t help. 

You may be surprised when you hear their responses.  Sometimes they have some idea of what they need to be successful.  Sometimes they just need to know that you genuinely care about them as people.

2)    Describe the future outcome in positive terms and feeling language.

Instead of telling them that they may fail and have to take your class over, describe for them how good they will feel when they actually made it through your class. 

 EX:  Think how good you are going to feel when you make it to the next grade (pass this class.)  Even if you think you don’t care right now, there is no doubt that you will feel relieved, a proud that you made.  Proud is a good feeling and only you make that happen for you.

3)    Make a “short timers calendar” for them.

Soldiers fighting overseas typically make a “short timers calendar” when they are near the end of their tour of duty.  It helps them focus on a happy future and not on the fears of the moment so they make them out of all kinds of materials and they make a visible mark each day.  Help them make a calendar for themselves or put one up in your classroom.  Fill in the required assignments.  Make it big and celebrate each milestone.

4)    Set up a competition between students who are behind in handing in assignments.

Let the students compete for who buys lunch or washes the other’s car or something else that might work.  Let the winner be the one who get’s the most assignments completed.  Most students fail because they fail to do the assigned work, not because they fail all the tests.

5)    Tell them that your success if tied to theirs. 

If you established a mutually respectful relationship with a student, you can ask them to please do the work so that your teaching record is not marred by their failure.  Lot’s of students will do things for you, if they like you, that would not do for themselves.


Joyce

Volume 44 - April, 2007

 

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 INSPIRATION

 

The dream begins with a teacher who believes in you, who tugs and pushes and leads you to the next plateau, sometimes poking you with a sharp stick called "truth."  ~Dan Rather

 

Taken from ~ http://www.quotegarden.com/teachers.html

 PERSONAL ENERGY SAVER

Use Your Imagination:  Take mini  energy breaks.

·         Stop what you are doing several times a day. 

·         Close your eyes and breathe deeply for about 30 seconds.

·         While you are deep breathing, imagine yourself at your favorite place to be or imagine what you are most looking forward to this coming summer.

·         Just let yourself be there for a minute or two.  Feel the good feelings.

·         Smile to yourself.

·         Open your eyes and feel the energy boost.  For that short minute or two your brain thought you were actually there and some of your stress dissipated.

Try this.  It works

 

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