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 NOTES FROM THE EDITOR

Dear Educators and Friends,

 

It is impossible in Georgia not to note the beautiful, refreshing days of spring. The longer daylight hours, pleasant temperatures, sprouting of plants and flowers, and chirping of active, colorful birds beginning their new families herald a time of renewal. This is a time for reflection of both the bad and the good things in our lives. 

 

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As Joyce travels and works with educators all over the country, she is constantly being asked---

"What do you do when...?" questions.  She has the greatest respect for "what do you do when questions" because usually the questioner is genuinely seeking new information and the teacher is willing to be a student.  Each month, Joyce will answer one or more of the most common "what do you do questions".  You are welcome to send one of yours.  She'll do her best to answer it.  Keep in mind, her answers may be different from the customary response but they are tried and true strategies for getting students to do what you are asking them to do.  Give yourself permission to try something new! Email Joyce at joyce@thehumanconnection.net  with any questions or situations you would like input on.  Let us know if we can show the question in a future newsletter or if you prefer to keep it private. We are hoping Joyce can help address situations you encounter and by sharing these questions/answers others can benefit as well.


From Joyce...

Spring Break!  What a joyous concept.  Could there be a better time of the year to take a little break and just go play?  I hope those of you are still looking forward to your Spring Break are planning time to get caught up on sleep, play a lot and give yourself permission to check out for awhile.  For those of you returning, I hope you had a great time and are feeling rejuvenated.

There are only two problems I can see with Spring Break.  The first is that when it is over, there is a good long stretch of hard work ahead of you and many students (and teachers) do not feel much like working at this time of year.  This really isn’t too big of a problem because of one of my grandmother’s favorite adages “work creates it own mood.”  It used to make me mad when she’d say that when it was time to do chores but I have to admit that she was right.  Once you get into the business of work, the work itself generates a certain amount of energy that moves things along.  The opposite, however, is not true.  If you wait for a work mood to happen before you get into a job, you may be waiting a long time. 

You might want to discuss this concept with your students.  Many a homework assignment or study time has gone undone for the waiting for the perfect “mood” to strike.  Adolescents in general rarely come upon a “let’s get to work” mood.  It can be helpful to teach them that the main way to get work done is to ignore your mood, pick a time and start.  Get it done.  Now that does create a good mood.

The second problem with Spring Break is that when it is over it is time to prepare for all manner of tests.  This is the time of year we start trying to measure how much students have learned or failed to learn.  The difficulties with trying to get this measurement is that many students who have actually learned the material taught cannot prove it on a test because of test anxiety.  Even teachers are having test anxiety these days because so much is riding on test results.  Dealing effectively with test anxiety can help both students and teachers. Remember that most anxiety is exacerbated by negative self talk.  Help students learn positive self-talk and a few simple skills to get them through the next test.

Suggestions for managing fears related to testing: 

1)  First recognize that fear is only a feeling.  It is not a fact.  Just because a person is afraid that he/she doesn’t know something does not mean that they don’t.  Fear is a natural response to the unknown and is only an emotion.  Repeating, “fear is a feeling, not a fact” can bring anxiety levels down.

2)  Affirm that “It is okay to do your best.”  Perfection is not necessary.

3)  Take deep breathing breaks throughout the test.  Answer 5-10 questions and then take three deep breaths.  Deep breathing can clear away confusion and reduce worry.

4)  Move quickly through the test to answer all the easy questions first.  There will be time to finish the rest. 

5)  Time always seems too short when one is taking a test. The fear of running out of time is even more prevalent than the fear of not knowing the answer. It is important to be reassured that there is enough time.  Repeat “I have all the time I need to answer all the questions correctly” over and over.

6)  Tell yourself “This is only a test. I will do my best and that will be good.” It is not a full scale measurement of everything about me.  The test is important but not the end of the world

7)  Visualize a positive outcome.  Actually imagine yourself getting the test back with the grade you want on it.  Let your imagination be as detailed as possible.  Imagine walking up to the teacher and getting the test and looking it and heaving a big sigh of relief.  Imagination is quite powerful  It's best to replace images of negative things with positive ones.

8)  Study.  Test anxiety is greatly reduced when a person is well prepared.  It's easier to imagine good things happening.

Do not be concerned that you might be encouraging lazy students not to try hard enough.  Students who suffer from test anxiety generally have a need to do well.  The same is true of teachers.  The teachers who worry most about test results are usually the ones who have the highest need to do well and to be judged accordingly. 


Joyce

Volume 37 - April/May 2006

 

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Fear is extremely energy draining.  Fear includes worry, fretting, and anticipating the worst.  Sometimes it can, in a weird sort of way, make us feel more in control. It’s as though if I worry enough about something I can control what will happen.

 

As much as possible, resolve to trust the Good Lord, or Providence if you prefer, that all shall be well.  Repeat simple affirmations, like “All is well” or “It will all work out.”  Remember, you do not have to feel the words you are saying.  Just let something positive replace all the negative chatter that tends to run through your head.  I promise you will feel more energy. 

 

Be kind to yourself.  Kindness directed anywhere, especially at oneself creates good energy.

 

 

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