Author of

 "Good Kids, Difficult Behavior"

and "Discipline That Works: 5 Simple Steps"

 NOTES FROM THE EDITOR

Dear Educators and Friends,

 

Joyce has a special note for her subscribers this month.  Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. The Editor

A note from the author:   This year, more than ever, I have talked to more teachers who are frustrated to the extreme because of the increasing number of students who are unable or unwilling to follow direction, settle down and cooperate with the learning process.  Where there used to be 2 students in most class, now there are 10 or more.  Teachers are struggling for control of the class as much or more as they are actually teaching.  For this reason, I am offering a significant discount of my “Good Kids, Difficult Behavior.”

This book will celebrate its 10th birthday in the spring of 2007. I have continued through the years to hear reports, over and over that “This works.”   The book is organized in a way that allows you to turn to any page and get practical help; no need to read it from cover to cover to get the benefit you need. 

I am confident that the purchase will be well worth your investment.  If you are not completely satisfied, just return the book and we will refund your money.  We will be happy to give a further discount for large number purchases.   Maybe you can get your administrator to buy one for your entire faculty 

 

 

 ASK JOYCE

As Joyce travels and works with educators all over the country, she is constantly being asked---

 

"What do you do when...?" questions.  She has the greatest respect for "what do you do when questions" because usually the questioner is genuinely seeking new information and the teacher is willing to be a student.  Each month, Joyce will answer one or more of the most common "what do you do questions".  You are welcome to send one of yours.  She'll do her best to answer it.  Keep in mind, her answers may be different from the customary response but they are tried and true strategies for getting students to do what you are asking them to do.  Give yourself permission to try something new! Email Joyce at joyce@thehumanconnection.net  with any questions or situations you would like input on.  Let us know if we can show the question in a future newsletter or if you prefer to keep it private. We are hoping Joyce can help address situations you encounter and by sharing these questions/answers others can benefit as well.


From Joyce...

I know that you all are looking forward to the Thanksgiving break.  I hope that you will take time amidst the food and family to re-energize yourself.  Look for energy saving tips in this Newsletter for being in the midst of a big family gathering.  I love Thanksgiving because I believe we need a holiday that lets us take time to be grateful for all that is good and wonderful in our lives, and there is a great deal.  That being said, I also know that getting together with family can be challenging and energy training if we aren’t careful to take care of ourselves.

I also hope that you will take this time to reflect on the first part of the 2006-2007 school year.  How it is going for you?  This is a good time of the year to assess your progress and come up with some new strategies to make your work more successful and enjoyable.  With a little reflection and a few suggestions from me, you can have a fresh start on November 27th instead of thinking “Oh, boy how will I make it ‘til the Christmas break?

Here are a few good questions to ask yourself in your moments of reflection:

  • Am I enjoying my teaching experience this year?
  • If not, why not?
  • What could I do---not my principal, not someone’s parent or anyone else---just me---do to make it better for myself?
  • Do I need some help with a particular student?
  • Do I feel comfortable asking for help?
  • What do I know about this student besides how he or she misbehaves?
  • If I turned the aggravating behavior up side down, what strength would this student be displaying?
  • Can I capitalize on that strength to help this student settle down and work for me?

Now for the suggestions:

1)  If you are not enjoying your teaching, then make a commitment to yourself to put some fun into your curriculum. 

2)  Plan a contest with your students.  Get them to compete with each other for prizes.  Go to the Dollar Store nearest you a buy a little bit of silly stuff for prizes.  Consider it an investment in your own fun quotient.  Give them a chance to earn bidding points. Give bidding points for work completed, right answers, quiet, cooperation or anything else you can think of.  Then on Friday, auction off the stuff.  Teachers have told me this is a great strategy for keeping students on task.  They can earn bidding points or bonus bucks or whatever you want to call their earning to bid on the silly stuff.  It’s fun

3)  Ask another teacher “What do you do for fun in your class?” Too much fun has been taken out of the educational process.  Add a little back in and you’ll be surprised how much enjoyment can be had in the learning process.

4)  Accept the fact that the only thing you can really change about your teaching situation is you.  Don’t waste energy dreaming of the day you will have the perfect students, with deeply committed parents and a wonderful administration that backs you up entirely.  May your dream come true but in the meantime--- you are it, and   you can do something different for yourself.

5)  Make a decision to try some new strategy with your most challenging students.  Ask them what they think would make your class more fun and interesting and what do they need to help them settle down and cooperate or at least not interfere with other people’s desire to learn.  Make this an essay question that gives them extra points.  You might be surprised at what you learn from them.

6)  Tell you students that you have thought a lot about them and the classroom situation while you were away and you have decided to make a single request from everyone of them.   Here it is.  Would everyone agree to treat every body in this room with sincere respect?  Define respect as the one word Golden Rule.  Then discuss how they want to be treated and what they consider disrespectful.  Tell them that once you all agree to what is, and is not, respectful then you are going to ask them all to make the commitment to make your classroom a Respect Only Environment  Sometimes they will do something they have agreed to in a reasonable fashion instead fighting the same thing when it is imposed on them.

7)  Get the focus on the positive. Give each student a small list of what you consider their natural strengths and talents and ask others to add to the list is they want.

8)  Remember that the student who can take the attention of the entire class away from you is a natural leader.  Get them to lead the class in some aspect of the daily routine.  Make them your ally.


Joyce

Volume 40 - November 2006

 

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 PERSONAL ENERGY SAVER

Energy Saving Tips for Holiday Celebrations:

1)  1)  Remember that some people love to be in the midst of lots of people and others do not.  If you are a person who needs some alone time, then take yourself away from the group for a short time.  Go for a walk.  Sneak off to the store.  Just go sit in the car if there is not other place.  Even a few minutes away can restore energy.

2)  2)  Decide that no one in your family needs to be different than how they are.  Look at them through the eyes of total acceptance instead of how you think they should be or how they could make their life better. You can’t change them so do not resist what is out of your control to change.

3)  3)  Remember. You do not have the craziest family ever.  They are probably fairly normal; they just seem little nuts because you know them so well.  Don’t fret yourself.

4)  4)  Ask the oldest of your group to tell you a story of their life growing up.  Ask them what they did for fun and who was their favorite person for having fun.  You may here stories you’ve never heard before.

5)  5)  Make a promise to yourself not to let anyone hurt your feelings.  You can make that decision.  If someone in the family says something insensitive or downright mean, then say to yourself, “They do not have power over my life, and I don’t have to give them the power to hurt me.”  All of that is true.  You can give them the power to hurt you or you can decide to keep your power for loving yourself.

6)  Last but not least.  Be sure to give thanks.  We have a bad tendency in America to forget that we live better than most of the people on the planet.  How sad for us if we forget to be grateful for our great good fortune.  Enjoy!

 

 

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